ok, so about a week ago i went to a co-ed adult toy party and it was a very interesting, eyeopening and fun experience. we laughed, drank, played games and had a good time.
it was great to see a couple of the men that were there really get into it and have fun, they were not closed to the idea of using sexual aides in the bedroom. there was however one man that felt if he wasn't enough then too bad for his wife. so sad, poor woman and man for that matter because he has no idea what he may be missing out on if his wife really enjoyed the new adventure they could embark on.
there was, however, on fly in the oinment...there were a few of us having a really good conversation on sex in general, kama sutra, oral sex and the overall pleasuring of your partner. i did not volunteer any information but there was this one guy that asked several questions and i answered them, he even went as far as saying that my female friend and i looked like we were both freaks but we weren't overt about it. i answered yes but that was between myself and my partner and my level of freakiness depended upon how much i trusted him. so we have this conversation, it's over and as far as i was concerned that was that. i'm having another conversation with another male and while we are talking the first guy is talking to his girlfriend and i can sense the tension between them. i'm hoping this dude isn't saying anything foul or off the wall to his girl.
i continue talking with the other guy, he's telling me about his marital issues and such but i'm still drawn to the tense energy from the couple and hoping that he isn't suggesting that i be a part of a triangle or something (it's been offered before). so i finish the conversation with the one guy and finally the party is over.
so the next morning i get a message from the girlfriend of the guy asking questions, who happens to be a good sistafriend of mine. she wanted to know what it was that we talked about because he was talking crazy that night and told her that i wanted to have sex with him. so i told her the truth; we had a conversation, it was geared towards sex because we were at an adult toy party but that i never made a pass at him, never told him i wanted to sleep with him in any way and nothing i said should have given him that idea. she thanked me for being honest and asked me to let her know if he said anything more to me and i told her i would.
wouldn't you know it two days later that man sent me an apology for his behavior the night before. i accepted the apology and told him that i wasn't a messy kind of woman and that his girlfriend, my friend was a good friend and i wasn't going to mess that up because of him and told him to have a good life. i let my friend know he sent the email and she thanked me. can you believe this dude sent me a friend request on fb!? i didn't tell her and i ignored his request.
good grief!
