Over the last year or so I have noticed something about myself, not only have I had this horrible blood infection that has tried to kill me a couple of times this year alone, but I have also been infected by gossip. I had to clutch my pearls when I figured this thing out. Being a Christian you would think that I first asked God for forgiveness, repented and then apologized to the unknowing victim of my wayward words. NOPE! What I did initially, was try to rationalize or justify my participation in the conversation; well I didn't say anything, I just listened or I did say something but it wasn't anything major, or this one right here that I know you may have used too..."all I did was speak the truth".
Gossip is gossip is gossip, no matter the wrapping we put it in, point blank period, no question mark! There are many scriptures about gossip; Ephesians 4:2 James 1:26; 4:11, Proverbs 11:9; 11:13, and Titus 2:3-5 just to name a few. I am familiar with them all but the one in Titus hits me the hardest because it is the foundation scripture for my organization My Daughters Mentor. How dare I!
I noticed that my inclination to gossip stemmed from the people that I was around, who always had something to say about someone and I just went along for the ride. The conversation may have started out with them telling me something about themselves in relation to a particular individual and then before you know it, it was all about that individual. It hit me even more when I realized that my view or opinion of the person of interest had changed to negative and I didn't really know that person. Hadn't, I myself, been a victim of this very thing? Yes! But I had allowed myself to be negatively influenced by the opinions of another person who thought, more than likely, that all they were doing was sharing information.
Years ago, when I became pregnant with my first child at 19, I had so many people, family and church members included, gossiping about my situation. Saying things like how they couldn't believe I had gotten pregnant, I had ruined my life, and I had gone away to college to get an education and came back pregnant. Fast forward years later when my mother died and there were so many people who had something to say about how she died and even more recent with her mother, my grandmother, died and there were family members slandering my character as it pertained to my grandmother's finances and how could there possibly no money. All of these horrible things were said by people who didn't really know the circumstances behind any of those events.
My wounds have barely healed behind those painful two-edged sword words and again I have to ask myself...how dare I do the very same thing to someone else.
My heart and soul truly repents for doing such to another person, I have forgiven myself for being so insensitive and I have asked for forgiveness from a couple of those people for speaking ill of them. Although I cannot easily remove myself from those around me who take the liberty to speak on someone else's life and choices, I also cannot control what they say, but I can guard my ears and my tongue with God's help so that I don't become infected again.
Are you a gossip? Have you fallen victim to lies we tell ourselves when we speak about others? I would ask you to take inventory of your words, be mindful of the intent behind them, make sure you have the facts before you speak and if all else fails...just walk away from those who are trying to infect you.
Peace and blessings beautiful people!
Remember to walk in Your purpose!
Jai