Victim, Victimizing, Victorious

Sometimes I sit back and listen to what people say and/or what they do to get what they want.  Some people, for whatever reason, live the life of a victim; nothing good every happens to them and when it does, something comes along to ruin it.  They are always sick or hurting or they have no money or other resources to get around.  It's the "woe is me" syndrome going on.  I have never understood a person who enjoys sitting in misery, always the victim...unless, they are doing it for attention.  Could that really be it, they are okay with living a miserable life because it makes them feel good to have people pay attention to them, or do things for them?  If that's really the reason then explain this to me: what happens when everyone becomes hip to your game?  What do you do when no one wants to help you in anyway because they now see that everything you do or say is for pity?

Wake up call!  People will eventually get tired of you laying in your own filth (illness, poverty, or whatever).  Even Jesus had to ask a man if he wanted to be healed.  Yes, when it comes to illness that's a difficult one to cross off the list but even in your illness there may be some things you can do for yourself to make things more bearable.  Do you know why people don't give a lot of funding to causes for sickness anymore?  They don't because they can't trust the funds are going to be used for the initial plea of help.  When my husband became ill and I set up a crowdfunding account, I made it plain to people that if they didn't want to send the funds to us directly then send it to one of the many hospitals he was in or one of the many specialists he had to see to pay on his accounts.  This way they know where the money went.  We had people purchase food for us, bring us food, send funds to pay our utilities or put gas in the car because we had to go back and forth so much.

At the same time I also wonder what joy people get out of victimizing others.  Are you so sad and depraved of heart that you only feel good when you make others hurt?  Or is it because you feel less than that they only way to make yourself okay is to intentionally bring others to your level of pain.  Your self-esteem should be higher than that and your ultimate goal should be to help people and not hurt them.  I have encountered many people in my life that seem to only find joy in making others crazy, or bring them pain of some sort.  But at the end of the day they still have to go home and face themselves in the mirror and be alone with themselves.  Even more importantly, at they end of their lives they have to face God and account for all of the dirt they have kicked up...whether they believe or not.  Pharaoh and his people suffered tremendously because he refused to soften his heart towards God's people and give them their freedom.  What did that benefit him in the end?  Absolutely nothing.

God's word says that we are more than conquerors, that we are the head and not the tail, that we are the lender and never the borrower.  His word assures us that we are victorious in Christ Jesus, all we have to do is trust Him and obey His word.  I refuse to walk around as a victim or participate in victimizing others because when it's all said and done and I have to meet Him face to face I want Him to say, with pride, well done my good and faithful servant.  

Peace and Blessings wonderful people!  Remember to walk in Your purpose!

Jai Ar

Scripture:

Victim - John 5: 6

Victimization - Exodus 9

Victorious - Psalm 17: 7; 71: 20; 100: 5, 2 Cor 1: 3-4; 4: 8-9, James 1:12, Philippians 4: 6-7

The Mask

Masks, there are so many and they mean so many different things.  In the theater you have the comedy and tragedy, in social media you have emojis that mean you are happy, sad, crying, love something, hate something, you think it's poop, you are wowed by something.  We post pictures with us smiling and laughing as if all is well.  Masks, we wear them well but what are they covering up?  What are they hiding; hurt, pain, depression, illness, homelessness, lack of funds, low self-esteem?  Or, or are you really always that happy and joyful and fun to be around?

When I was dealing with depression before it got really heavy, I would smile as if all was well.  I would tell people that I was alright and that I could handle all that was given to me for me to take care of.  I lied and big time.  My world was turning upside down and flipping sideways, I was in so much internal turmoil and to look at me you would have no clue.  Family and friends had no idea that I was overwhelmed by the responsibilities of life.  Do you know someone like that or are you that person?  You are walking around telling everyone that it's ok, that you are alright or that you will be fine.  But the reality is that you cry when you are alone in the bathroom, or at night after everyone else has fallen asleep.  Your spouse or significant other is on the other side of the bed, snoring away, and has no idea that you are bawling your eyes out, snotting all over your pillow because the pain hurts so bad.

One of the things that drew me out of my depression, at the deepest point, heck at all points, was God's word.  God's promise to me, to us, is that trouble doesn't last always, that weeping endures for the night but joy comes in the morning.

We also wear masks of makeup and hair and expensive clothing, even expensive cars and houses.  Let me make this clear, there is absolutely nothing wrong with hair, makeup, expensive clothing, cars or houses.  If you have worked hard for these things, you deserve it.  They are there to enhance your appearance and your life.  But why do you really have those things?  A lot of women wear makeup and extra hair because they feel as if they are not beautiful without it, usually because someone told them that they would be cute if they had longer hair or if they wore a little makeup.  Darker complexioned people want to lighten their skin because someone told them that they would be cute if they were lighter.  People put the pressure on themselves to get numerous degrees and to be the smartest person in the class because someone told them that they were stupid or because they got a C on a test that they needed to work extra hard.  Doing this made them feel as if they were inadequate and weren't good enough.  Men buy expensive cars and/or large houses because as a child/teenager someone told them they were ugly and they had better get a lot of money because no woman would be attracted to them without it.  I have heard these things myself!  I have heard people say this to and about children, teenagers, young adults and even grown folks and it has saddened me.  Have I been guilty of it myself?  On some level, I'm sure I have and shame of me for being so insensitive and inconsiderate of the other person's feelings, self-worth and overall mental health.

If you are wearing a mask please take it off and deal with the real that is under that mask.  Deal with the hurt feelings, the low self-esteem, the pain of feeling abandoned and neglected, the depression.  You are worth so much and have so much to offer this world, beyond what anyone has ever told you in the past, even beyond your wildest dreams or imaginations.  Dive into God's word and you will find so many scriptures that are encouraging to your spirit.

Some scriptures:

Psalm 94:19

*James 1:2 -3

Proverbs 10:28

Romans 14:17; 15:13

*Psalm 30:15

*Hebrews 12:2

Peace and blessings beautiful people!  Remember to walk in Your purpose!

Jai