We have all had someone to tell us, or we have even told someone, that they will get over it, get passed it or get through it. But what does that really mean? Before I dive into that let me present the definitions of the words "Passed/Past" and 'Through" as they are noted on Dictionary.com;
Passed - 1. to move or cause to move in a specific direction. 2. go past or across, leave behind or on one side in proceeding.
Through - moving in one side and out of the other side of an opening, channel or location.
Okay, now that that is clear, on with the topic.
Initially I thought this was a super topic when it was presented to me in spirit but then I began to doubt it because those terms are similar enough for people to question the difference. However, when the Spirit prompts I must obey. When we are hearing these words or saying these words to someone, it's usually because there is an experience of tough times, or having encountered an obstacle in life that is difficult; such as a death, the loss of a job, marriage or friendship or even a health crises. Again I ask what do those words mean?
Imagine if you will, a huge boulder or mountain, it represents your difficult situation. Now you have a choice of getting passed it, or around it or through it; which do you choose? Now before you move forward realize that there is a lesson in either path and you will learn. When you tell someone that they will get passed a thing the imagery for me is that they will walk around it without really dealing with the issue at all. They may consider it and think about it as they walk all around to get to the other side of it; "wow, i can't believe that ended the way it did. i really thought we were friends and that she really cared about my well-being. humph! clearly not! oh well, i'm just going to walk all around miss thing by avoiding her at all costs, i will not go to the same places i know she goes to, i will not answer her calls, or talk to others about her. you know what? i'm not ever going to speak her name again"! Before you know it, you have walked around that boulder, you've gotten passed it and now it's in the past. Or is it really?
Imagine that same boulder (the failed friendship) and what it looks like to go through it. You take up a pick ax and begin to chisel away at the friendship and blow by blow you begin to reveal the layers and those layers reveal the role you played in that failed friendship as well. you will see that you may have been a bit unrealistic about what the friendship was supposed to do for you and what she was supposed to do for you as a friend. you thought that whatever idea you came up with was a good idea and because she didn't go along with it then she wasn't cool. It could have been just the opposite and everything that she suggested you went along with and became her literal "yes woman" and gave her the false sense of superiority. It could have been that because one of you was less educated than the other you began to belittle the other or not take them seriously or you spoke poorly about her to your other friends when she wasn't around or allowed her to speak poorly about others when they weren't around to speak for themselves.
One of the things that I did after ever failed relationship was to take some time to examine my role in it's ending. I prayed a lot and asked myself the hard question(s). What did I do or didn't I do to play a role in it not going well? From there I worked on those flaws, chiseling through that boulder, still in prayer and seeking God's guidance and when my spirit felt balanced I moved forward. Just as I was beginning to get tired or overwhelmed by all that I was revealing, I saw a little bit of light and that pushed me to keep going until I made it to the other side of that huge boulder.
Of course there are many scriptures that encourage through this process and the ones that speak loudest to me I will put an asterisk by but before I go let me ask you this...are you getting passed it or getting through it?
*Psalm 27:1
Isaiah 41:13
1 Peter 5:7
Romans 5:3-5; 8:17-18
Phil 4:13
James 1:12; 1:2-4
*Romans 8:28
Prov 3:5-6
*Phil 4:6-7
Peace and Blessings beautiful people! Remember to walk in Your purpose!
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