What I know for sure: hurt people hurt people! Whether it is a past or present hurt, my sister/brother, if you don't deal with it honestly in all of it's displeasure, all of it's pain, all of it's ugly memories you will go on to hurt people and in most cases the very people you swore you would never hurt because you love them too much.
Mothers, playing those children as pawns in the game of life... is not only hurting the father but truly the child and detrimentally so, fathers not seeing that child or caring for them on all levels because of the mother hurts that child and detrimentally so.
Siblings forgive one another because in the end all you truly have is your very first friends in life, each other.
Spouses treat each other in kindness and love because if your mate is doing everything they can to be God's mate for you you'd better act like it and reciprocate.
Lying to cover your tracks usually only exposes the lie and you even more.
Peace and blessings beautiful people!
jai ar