Special Event

i went to a wonderful formal event on thursday evening and encountered some fabulous people. some of which i was familiar with because i'd seen them in a few things and some from working with them. most everyone was dressed in the requested formal attire, some were semi-formal but overall everyone looked really good. however, there was this one young lady that was dressed a bit less than appropriate; the back was basically all out, the front was cut super low and the skirt portion was so high that i have no idea how she was able to sit down without showing all of her goods. to top it off, she was visibly uncomfortable because everyone else was dressed so much more appropriately. i just wanted to hug her and say sister don't every sell yourself short, don't ever think that less will automatically equal more, don't ever think that if a man sees you in an outfit such as this that he's going to think quality woman, have more respect for yourself, but the more i wanted to do that the more i listened to myself and realized that i would come across as critical and not helpful, so i said nothing. i don't like that i said nothing because i feel that it was an opportunity to pull another sister up and i didn't.

also while at this event i ran into two young ladies (two seperate instances) wearing wigs, which actually looked really nice on them. now i wear wigs from time to time so i have nothing bad to say about their wigs but it is important that i mention them because i have for the last 6 months or so worn my hair bald or very close to bald and this is how i wore it thursday and both women complimented me on the fact that i wore my hair that way and wished they had the courage to do the same. they both confessed to me that they were battling cancer and their hair loss was the result of chemo so i told them both to keep fighting that strong fight and wear their hair bald or low, if you have the courage and will to fight this illness you have every right to wear your bald head as a badge. they both said they would try but it may take them some time, one of them said that she had a nice shaped head like mine but her hair was growing in splotches, i said hun shave that hair off and wear it bald, don't be ashamed. she then proceeded to say she wasn't sure she had the courage yet and she was sure i was just wearing mine for fashions sake. so of course i proceeded to explain to her that it had nothing to do with fashion, i cut my hair off for a couple of reasons; 1. it was falling out in patches and it was difficult to hide the spots and 2. because i have lost family members to cancer and have family members still fighting the good fight. so fashion had nothing to do with it. she felt better after that and said the next time i saw her she would be sporting her bald head. good for you sister, good for you!

take every opportunity to build a person up and not tear them down, every chance to encourage someone not discourage, be a blessing to others not a burden.

peace and blessings wonderful people.