As a coach my job is to guide you to your better you. My PURPOSE in this life is to guide you to your best self by allowing you to dig deep within & find out who you really are and what are you really purposed to do. Please do not take my articles as anything more than observations, interpretations and/or conversation take-away. Most things I will post here will be from either my life experience(s) or those of others I know. That said, Peace and Blessings wonderful people.
Monday, April 21, 2014
Live what you Love
I get on the bus and say to myself I really like having the freedom to do what I want when I want, the freedom to ride around downtown and sightsee if I want, the freedom to think without blockages, the freedom to write, the freedom to be happy in the moment. as I was thinking about this I was telling myself that I need employment that allows me to be that free all of the time, employment that sustains or exceeds my current financial contribution to my family and allows me to do what I love on a regular basis; writing, photography, mentoring/coaching, encouraging others, studying God's word, design/styling. the thought comes that God will make a way, if it is God's will He will make this thing possible, whether it's right now or in two years, He will make it happen. funny thing is I feel it's going to happen soon.
why do I feel that way because my next "intuitive" thought was, it's going to be a "suddenly" movement, it will happen before you know it. you know that it took a while for you to get in the place that God wants you in, to get ready for His blessing but this thing is about to happen "suddenly", it will look like no effort went into it at all, like you had not been eagerly waiting for God to do it to those on the outside looking in.
I tell myself to get to writing, no excuses, get it done. meet the deadline.
shortly after that I move from one seat to another on the bus that brings me closer to the front and I begin looking out of the windows and suddenly I see this slogan "Live what you Love", I instantly see that as confirmation for the just previous spirit self conversation. if I am doing the things that I love everyday then it will make my living in freedom part so much easier to accomplish. if I stick to the calling that God has over my life then it will happen; Proverbs 18:16 says that a man's gift makes room for him, and brings him before great men. my gift and love of all of the things previously mentioned, as well as others, will make room for me to live that life of freedom because God's word says so, because He promised me it would.
another part to that intuitive thought was that I will initially have to start this on my own but it will make a way for my husband to eventually join me on the freedom path. again that is funny to me because that is exactly what is happening, I've started this journey on my own, with my husband's support but not his hands on involvement. I am totally so excited about the move of God in my life and the things He has already done, is doing and is about to do!
Live what you Love wonderful people!
peace and blessings,
jai ar
Saturday, April 19, 2014
In awe
The last week or so has been really amazing, my eyes and ears have been opened when I had no idea they were closed. On the prayer line visions have been shared, prophecy has been spoken and hearts have been renewed.
I have had a few visions myself that I have not shared with anyone yet because it is not time. But one of the most recent ones that I can share was an open eye vision, I call it open eye because I was not asleep. Some would say that it was more of a thought than vision but there is a difference. Anyway, I saw myself preparing to hand out money but before I could I remembered that I needed to ask my husband how much I was supposed to hand out. I had to ask him because it was actually our money, an abundance of it and I knew that I had to financially bless some people. That was a beautiful vision.
The contributions for the book have been flowing in and I have actually written one more testimony down myself. I will probably write one or two more before my deadline. I am so excited about what God is doing and is about to do with this book, or shall I say series of books.
So many amazing things are about to happen and I am praying my way into preparation.
Peace and blessings wonderful people!
Jai ar
Saturday, April 5, 2014
No deadbeats
I have said this before in another social media outlet; if he is not dead, incarcerated or abusive there is no excuse for a father not to play a role in his child's life. If the father can't do much to contribute financially he can certainly spend time with the child or children, as a matter of fact that's usually what the child wants most anyway.
My mother raised me for the most part in her own, i had three sons and raised them for the most part on my own, i know what it felt like not to have my father around and i hated to see the hearts of my son's break when they realized that their father was not who they thought he was. It pains me when i see more babies coming into the world and their fathers are not active in their lives. Women say i am not the first and i won't be the last to raise a baby by myself but my question is; is that an acceptable answer? The answer is no. Of course you can not make a person do anything they don't have the mind or will to do but that child is going to eventually ask questions about their father and his family. Beyond that the mother needs to know that father's, and his family's, medical history because what if this family has a history of mental defect or cancer or skin conditions or allergies or addictions. I know that sounds like a lot but trust me these are all very important things to know and one of the reasons it used to be mandatory to do a blood test before you got married.
While raising my sons i made sure to have conversations with them regarding how they felt about their dads and the lack of their presence, in those conversations one of the things i would say is now you know how not to do it. I did that because the conversation was never had with me, my father's absence was never discussed with me and i wanted to be different, i wanted them to know that their feelings, thoughts and opinions did matter. Ultimately i did not want to raise deadbeat dads, no deadbeats. One of the other things i did not do is speak bad about their fathers to them or around them, my mother didn't do it when it came to my father and i wasn't going to do it to theirs. I wanted them to form their own opinions and learn from the example put in front of them. I refused to raise deadbeats, no deadbeats.
Currently only my oldest has a child and he is very active in his son's life because he wanted to make sure his child did not have the same experience he had. He is with his son every day and he refuses to let his son's mother deter him from doing his part, his child is his top priority... No deadbeats.
It hurts my soul to see babies without active fathers because that is yet another generation dealing with issues that it shouldn't have to deal with all because the adults in its life couldn't get it together. No deadbeats.
Fathers stand up and raise your children! Mothers let that father do his job!
NO DEADBEATS!
Peace and blessings wonderful people,
Jai ar
Monday, March 17, 2014
My weekend 3/14/14
This past weekend was super busy but truly a blessing. Friday morning I spent time with my paternal grandmother whom I credit for my spiritual foundation. This woman of God blessed me, we talked about her younger days, family and being saved. I really enjoyed myself. That afternoon and early evening I ran some errands and then caught up with an friend/ex-coworker and she used me as her stylist for a function she has coming up. We had fun. I spent the rest of the evening with my husband until we got a call from a family member asking for money...sad. I just prayed for them.
Saturday was a lot of fun because it was the celebration for my grandson's 1st birthday. He likes spongebob so everything was plastered with that character at the party site. It was great to have my mom and her mother there because you just don't know how much time anyone has, both of them are ill. Later that night the hubs and I went shopping and out for a date and he discovered that he liked the vip treatment at the theater. So funny.
Sunday after church we went grocery shopping, shopping for out up coming trip and had another date. We really enjoyed ourselves. Later in the night I conferenced with my writer's guild and although I was late getting on the call I really enjoyed the session.
I note all of this because family and love are so important and if you don't pay attention you will miss out on loving and receiving love from some of the most important people in your life. Take the time to pray for them, love them, celebrate and acknowledge them.
Peace and blessings you wonderful people!
Jai ar
Monday, March 10, 2014
deliverance
I had to start there before I wrote anything else. i may have said this before in a previous blog but this bears repeating. several years ago God charged me to write my life story and i started it but didn't get far. He has now charged me to write another book, which is in the process, and while i'm pulling that one together i decided to go over my minimal notes from the first book and in reading what i wrote before i have to thank God for deliverance because my mind was so scattered. i am telling you, the notes within the notes emphasized how unsettled my spirit was.
because my mind was so all over the place i have to start this book over because even though a few sentences make sense, it's just too far all over the place to even think that it can be used in it's entirety. i thank God that He has kept my mind, i thank Him that He has kept my spirit, that He has kept this gift that He put in me for Him so that i may bring it all to fruition as His vessel. i thank Him for keeping the blessings He has for me because of this gift, because now that i am being obedient to Him in every thing He tells me to do He is going to release those blessings in abundance.
i love my God, my Savior, my Healer, the lover of my soul and i thank Him for every part of my life and for every lesson it has taught me.
peace and blessings wonderful people!
jai ar
Thursday, March 6, 2014
Why would you keep trying to talk to a snake that is trying to bite you?
Why would you keep trying to talk to a snake that is trying to bite you?
I was on the phone with a friend and she and i were talking about some things going on in her present and my past and how her communicating with certain people was not high on her priority list. I told her i understood and asked "why would you keep talking to a snake that is trying to bite you?". It is a very valid question because what are you really thinking in the midst of that conversation? Are you thinking that if you talked enough the snake would change it's mind? Or if you became it's friend it would decide it liked you too much to harm you? Not going to happen, that nasty thing, even if it did grow to like you, is going to revert back to what it was inherently put on this earth to do...strike you, dig into your flesh with it's poisonous fangs.
Spiritually speaking, recently i heard that the problem with some Christians is that they refuse to talk to the devil and tell him what they won't take from him anymore. But my question remains in the same vain; is talking to the devil going to make him give you your stuff back? I was talking with a sister in Christ a couple of weeks ago and she said to me that when she was in the street doing wrong, if she saw something she wanted she took it and it belonged to her at that point. The victim coming to her and talking to her about it and asking for their stuff back wasn't going to make her give it back to them, they would have to fight her for it.
Scripture says in Matt 11:12 KJV "and from the days of John the Baptist until now the kingdom of heaven suffereth violence, and the violent take it by force.", translated that means that the kingdom has been attacked over and over and violent men have tried to take it. So i got to thinking about that verse right there and what it meant to me because no one has ever been able to break it down for me and most times i hear it it is being used or twisted to have a positive meaning. What it says to me is simply this if i want to go to heaven, be a part of the royal family, receive my inheritance i must be just as violent as they were. When that snake slithers up to you talking to it has to have a purpose because your niceties aren't going to cut it. You have to proclaim Jesus' word over your life to that snake, you have to shout out God's promises to you and your family and snatch back everything he took from you; greater is He that is in me than he that is in the world, i am a lender and never a borrower, i am the head and not the tail, for God has not given me the spirit of fear but He has given me power and love and a sound mind, i have never seen the righteous forsaken nor His seed begging bread.
I could go on and on with reinforcements found in God's word but i won't because my point is not only am i speaking His word to the enemy but i am in the process of taking back, violently, all that belongs to me. I'm not being nice and saying please mr devil can i have my life back, can i have my children back, can i have my finances, sanity, health, marriage, job, friends, family back. I am saying devil you are a liar and God's word tells me you are and reinforces my knowledge that you have only come to kill, steal and destroy but my God has come so that i may have my life and have it in abundance, pressed down, shaken together and running over into the saucer that is my children , my family, my finances, my life, my health and strength and i am going to fight you kicking screaming and violently punching you in the neck, knocking you down and crushing you under my feet like the vermin you are.
So i ask you good people; why would you keep talking to a snake that is trying to bite you? Why are you not cutting off his head with God's promises over your life and sending him back to his burning hell under your feet?
Peace and blessings wonderful people!
Jai ar
Wednesday, March 5, 2014
what are you concerned with?
If you are focused on your purpose and walking in it then what others have to say about you should be looked at as free publicity and has the potential to elevate you to your next level. How, you ask. If the person "they" are talking to has a free thinking mind of their own they are not just going by the other person's word, they are going to want to see for themselves and when they see just how positive, blessed and covered you are their positive connects to your positive and you are elevated.
Stay focused! Peace and blessings GoOD people!